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Post by stalemango on Jan 24, 2011 21:32:14 GMT -5
I'm not proud of it, but prior to surgery, I had sex with a lot of call girls because my low self-esteem and small penis made me feel like I was unworthy of having sex without giving a woman money for the opportunity. Has anyone else felt this way and used the services of a professional?
Once again, not proud of it, but even after surgery I've used the services of a few professionals to see if they would notice my penis was surgically enhanced.
Definitely not proud of it, but I think I'm addicted to paid help. Not justifying, but the women I see are generally independents charging $300+ and not the stereotypical drug abuser or trafficked woman the media leads you to believe.
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Post by hoddle10 on Jan 24, 2011 22:27:44 GMT -5
Yes I have and for similar reasons. Though I'm definitely not addicted as I'm just not naturally an escort type of guy and am looking forward to not feeling like I need to pay for it, as it doesn't sit easy with me. I don't mean to say I think escorts are bad people or the guys that use them are bad people, but just that my ego has difficulty coming to terms with the idea of needing to pay for sex. I feel like I'm degrading myself. But due to my penis and the deformity of botched surgery, I've often felt too enbarrassed to have sex with regular girls, as I'm worried they judge me or back out when they see my penis. So naturally i feel more comfortbale with idea of an escort as I know they don't have any physical expectations and just want my money.
Basically with an escort I know where I stand right from the start, but with regular girls there is a level of uncertainty and anxiety which puts me off. So whilst I'm not by nature the kind of guy who pay for it, as it just isn't a trait of someone with who is egotistical, I have on occassions done so, as I'd rather have sex than not and feel more relaxed with an escort.
Stalemango, when you say your not proud of it, do you mean you think it's something to be ashamed of? I really don't think paying for sex is something to be ashamed of and know loads of people who have. Thesedays guys brag about their exploits with hookers, rather than keep it secret. I don't feel ashamed at all, in the sense of what others think. I just feel that I shouldn't need to pay for sex and thus my ego is effected by it. If I didn't have my penis issue's I know i wouldn't do it. But likewise if I wasnt such an ego maniac, I'd have no problems doing it regularly and think it's a great hobby. I've got frineds who do it all the time, don't feel any the lesser for having to pay for it and usually have a great time. If you have the same attitude as them, then why shouldn't you keep doing it?
The girls I've seen in the past have always been really attractive and I've enjoyed the whole process from the initial phone call to when we part ways. I got a real buzz from it and was often nervous which really added to the experience and made it so much more intense. Unfortunately the ego I keep mentioning always got the better of me and afterwards I'd feel like a real loser for having to pay for it and this is what would stop me using escorts if I had a more normal penis. But my ego is my weakness and if you don't have such an issue, then why not enjoy escorts? Don't feel ashamed just because society looks down on it. Using escorts is nothing like picking up dirty crach whores. The escorts I've met are self employed, nice girls. If you enjoy it, then it isn't a question of not being proud. Let's face it, having sex with hot girls is a great way to spend your time and money. You shouldn't have to justify it and if you no longer have the excuse of being ashamed of the size of your penis, then so what. I think once they've done it a few times, most men would become regular users. It's just most men don't have an issue in their lives that gets them to take the intial step of using an escort. I think people like myself, who have done, but decided it's not really for them would be in the minority. Im think once you've done it once, assuming she was a decent looking and gave good service, most men would become occassional to fairly regular users. Basically you sound perfectly normal to me.
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Post by stalemango on Jan 24, 2011 23:10:23 GMT -5
Thanks for sharing, hoddle10. I have a few issues with paying to have sex with women. Ignoring the fact that most of their income is tax free, I don't particularly like the fact that I provide them the means to live a lifestyle that most professionals aren't able to. I make six figures, but please believe me when I tell you that I put in a lot of work each week to make that happen. More importantly, I don't feel like I have to. I've ran into a few ladies who don't hide the fact that they only provide services for the money, so I when I come across one that treats me particularly well, I like to stick with her. The issue with that is that soon it feels like a relationship (sometimes they contact me) and I realize that I could be having a real relationship with a woman who actually cares about me if I invested the time and effort.
Going forward, I would like to refrain from using professionals. I actually like the thrill from making the phone and going to an address knowing there's a woman waiting for me. If it's an incall, I like knowing that I could find a woman I fancy and 'order' her like a pizza without the hassle of going out. Considering that it's not something I would admit to people in my everyday life, I suppose I am ashamed of it. I can't deny that I've had some great sex with adult films stars and women that I wouldn't have been able to date otherwise, but at this point in my life, I would prefer an actual relationship. Now, if only I could meet a woman who understands that in order to bring home my income, I have to spend a lot of time at the office.
I agree with you regarding other men. The first escort I saw was a Hispanic woman twenty years my senior and she rocked my world. I was literally sweating.
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Post by Skeptical One on Jan 25, 2011 0:16:45 GMT -5
I changed the title of this thread so it wouldn't turn too many heads... Proboards TOS/Abuse team is still reviewing our site so I want to keep a low profile. It's not directly penis/phalloplasty related so it stands out a bit lol.
This topic isn't obscene at all, only taboo. I have had a few run ins with escorts, but I know a few guys who are confident (and some who are even big) who have flirted with the escort scene. I think escorts can serve multiple purposes and multiple outlets. I think yours (stalemango) is just one of them.
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Post by Skeptical One on Jan 25, 2011 0:18:55 GMT -5
And I also have modified all posts after the original thread to read "Re: Experiences" since it didn't change automatically from "Re: Escorts." Pardon my modifications, its not an attempt to censor, but to keep our public profile modest in light of recent TOS scrutiny. I hope everyone has my understanding. The topic is legitimate in its context and can continue
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Post by seeker on Jan 26, 2011 8:15:46 GMT -5
Good call SO. This is a good topic. "Experiences" is alluring enough to have found it.
Appreciate your guys honesty. I feel the same way. Why feel shame? Due to a botched job, I personally understand Hoddle's view. I've looked into, but never followed through. I don't have the resources to employ escorts. At least not on a regular basis. Money, shame (OK - I would feel some), frustration with the botched outcome, ego.
Actually, I've never felt comfortable discussing this with anyone. Thanks for posting.
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